Josiah’s Birth Story

My little man is 6 months old… how time has flown from when I first found out we were having you to holding you closely on your born day. Here’s Josiah’s birth story.

So let’s rewind slightly to when I found out I was pregnant, I had felt some flu-like symptoms for a few days which didn’t develop further put were severe enough to have me bed bound. I asked my husband if he could get me honey and lemon and to also grab me a pregnancy test, I wasn’t expecting anything as I hadn’t missed a period yet but when that line clearly became duplicated I was like this feels all too familiar with the first symptoms I had with Nia-Mae.

The first three months of pregnancy were actually quite smooth sailing where I didn’t suffer with any morning sickness (and what a relief this was as I had suffered majorly when pregnant with Nia-Mae), in fact my pregnancy was the total opposite from the first one which made me believe that I was DEFINITELY having a boy second time around.

The Summer of 2018 was HOTTT!! Second time pregnant and I seemed to get bigger a lot faster, as much as the weather was like being abroad for myself and bump it was torturous. Walking two steps had me sweating buckets but I did my best to enjoy as much as I could with Nia-Mae and my husband by setting up her water pool in the back garden, trips to the park or just steady walks in town.

Fast forward to the final month and after having a hard Summer with a family bereavement and having to spend a month away from home with Nia-Mae, I was actually worried that baby boy would be coming early due to numerous painful contractions which I was definitely not used to in my previous pregnancy. I was so worried that I’d go into labour being in Leeds and having nothing with me but thankfully baby boy decided to stay put and cook some more.

So I’m back at home by September and in overdrive trying to frantically nest and get everything ready… bags aren’t packed and NOTHING has been purchased (not even a vest) but on top of that I’m frantically still working on outstanding orders from my small business before baby boy comes but luckily manage to get everything ready with majority of baby items being in perfect condition thankfully from hand-me-downs we’d purchased for Nia-Mae.

7 months pregnant at my late Grandma’s funeral

It’s a week before your due date and I am so ready for you to arrive that I was going to ask a midwife friend of mine to do a sweep in fear that I’d be overdue which I really didn’t want to be the case. I had been active enough with entertaining a toddler (that isn’t the easiest feat) plus my continuous obsession of needing to nest and keep things clean and tidy. With the freakish Tropical like Summer we were having and it being stuffy both day and night, sleep wasn’t my friend either so the day before you came I had been extra restless and was pacing about the house looking to do anything that would keep me busy such as changing our bedding, continuing with work orders (even though I was on Maternity leave at this point) and if that wasn’t enough an evening of boogie down with my favourite playlist.

All this must have triggered something as prior to having Brixton Hicks contractions a couple of days ago that didn’t develop into labour I wasn’t hopeful when I started having these again in the early hours of Friday 5th October. So I did the usual and timed them with each early contraction being 10 minutes apart and bearable. I’m awake on my own so decide to entertain myself with Netflix while still timing with contractions varying between 8-10 mins but surprisingly over a short space of time the contractions start to be at smaller intervals at every 5 minutes so I decide to call my hospital labour ward as I wanted to be prepared as we still needed our assigned person to be well prepared in order to look after Nia-Mae.

Gravity definitely did it’s part as soon as I was on the phone to a midwife I could barely speak through my contractions at this point and knew that this was the real thing. The midwife first advised me to soak in the bath which unfortunately for me couldn’t be the case as we only had a shower. I’m still timing contractions that are erratically all over the place so thankfully the midwife advises us to come in.

“Get up Miquel, it’s time!”

So it’s now game on and I call my assigned person so that we can arrange for Nia-Mae to be taken to their house…ring ring, ring ring and then straight to voicemail but luckily our second choice was able to come to our house and look after Nee (even though it was completely unplanned for her) While fighting through increasingly painful contractions and getting the last bits ready for Nee eventually it was time to go to the hospital.

Once we’d got to the car the contractions seemed to die down and I was able to get to the ward with ease and check into the waiting room where I decided to call my mum and let her know I was in labour. During mid conversation I had the most strongest contraction that I just handed the phone to Miquel and groaned through the pain. Contractions all of a sudden intensified where I was crying out in pain for the ‘nurse’ not caring who was watching or hearing me and I must have been causing enough noise as a midwife soon came and between her and Miquel on either side partially dragged me to an observation room where I was checked and was 5cm dilated and relieved to be told that I wasn’t going home.

From always wanting a water birth and it not going to plan the first time round, I was adamant about doing the best for a water birth this time and luckily the pool was available so as soon our midwife for delivery was available we were taken to the pool. Contractions before this point had been steady but bearable so when I entered into the pool I asked the midwife ‘How long do you think it will be until I give birth’ and her reply being ‘I can’t specifically say but it’s usually 1cm every hour’ of course I knew this from prior experience but had magically hoped that this wouldn’t be the case second time around as I had stopped dilating at 7cm with Nia-Mae as well as already having an epidural.

I remember looking at the clock and it being just before 7am and predicting that I would give birth around 11am-12noon but oh how wrong was I. I had never used gas and air before but the contractions came on as powerful than ever that in between sucks I was begging the midwife that I now wanted an epidural to which she let me know that the anaesthetist was currently in surgery so I’d have to wait until they were finished but reminded me that this couldn’t be administered in the pool. I DID NOT want to come out the pool as it was giving me a lot of relief despite the pain so I just dismissed the idea but quickly swayed back on forth with each painful contraction demanding that I now wanted the epidural and to allow me to come out of the pool when the anaesthetist was out of surgery.

My poor midwife who was only on duty for an hour before her shift was over did her best to accommodate me as much as possible so went off to try and get the paperwork started for my epidural leaving myself and my husband to continuing labouring. All I remember thinking is if this is how painful it is now then it will be too unbearable by the time I’m ready to push not knowing that I was further along than I realised. I suddenly felt the urge to want to push down and knew that the head was coming but had slid back in and once the midwife came into the room I screamed ‘He’s coming!’ The look on her face was total disbelief as I had only been in the pool not even 30 mins. My husband who had now been in charge of the gas and air due to me overdosing on it had changed positions so that he was now facing me so he could assist me when I needed to take a puff!

All of a sudden I hear him say ‘Im gonna pass out!’ and then see him toppling backwards as he’s fainted taking part of the instrument I needed for my gas and air. The midwife is in total shock and has pulled the red cord for more midwives to assist but to my surprise have paid all the attention on Miquel and left me to fend for myself. I cry out ‘Help’ as I feel that the next few contractions are the ones needed for me to make my last few pushes; I must have sounded so desperate as all I see is this head pop back up and my husband ready to continue his duty as birth partner. And very well timed as the next couple of contractions I could feel ‘the ring of fire’ (which to me didn’t feel as bad as some of the stories I’d heard and felt that my contractions had been much more painful), a few seconds later out slid my beautiful baby boy at 7:24am on Friday 5th October weighing 6lbs and 10oz of gorgeousness. I was in love all over again and so relieved and proud with myself for having the birth plan I’d always wanted… I’d finally had my water birth.

We cuddled for a while until your umbilical cord was cut and then you latched on perfectly while we both enjoyed skin-to-skin contact while Mummy and Daddy grew besotted with you.

Six months later and we are more in love with you than ever. Your big sister adores you and treats you like you’re her own, always ready to give a helping hand with nappy changes (I once luckily just in time walked in on her trying to wipe your soiled nappy) You continue to feed like a champ and although you could sleep A LOT better than you do, it’s probably because you love Mummy loads and want all the cuddles. Despite kissing sleep goodbye for the foreseeable future, Mummy can’t deny that I do and always will love our cuddles too!

Josiah Craig Lambert born Friday 5th October at 7:24am via the quickest water birth weighing 6lb 10oz

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Gummee Glove Review

Every baby is different and especially being a Mummy of 2, I am finding this so true the older JJ gets. He has been teething for a few months now and while Nee never had problems with this it seems to be affecting JJ a lot more.

All fingers in mouth, dribble down chin and a nappy full of mess it was easy to see that he wasn’t copy well and especially at night.

I came across gummeeteething on Instagram and I instantly loved their product called Gummee Glove that we were kindly gifted to try out. Gummee Glove is a teething mitten designed to fit on a babies hand for ages 3m+ which helps to provide relief on their gums by the side teethers being well positioned so that when the baby brings their hand to mouth they can easily chew on the teether.

We chose the turquoise Gummee Glove (3-6 months) for stage 2 teething which comes with the detachable heart shaped teether and free laundry/travel drawstring pouch. This makes it easy to wash and keep the teether clean after baby’s use.

Once we ordered the Gummee Glove it arrived very quickly with next day delivery, I was really excited for JJ to try it as he’d had a rough few days of teething where we had needed to administer Calpol. As soon as I put the glove on JJ’s hand he knew exactly what to do with it and brought the glove to his mouth in a sideward position to allow the teether to fit in his mouth. The glove fit perfectly on his hand by the adjustable Velcro strap which makes it so useful for babies that are too young to grip onto the normal teethers.

JJ was so happy right away on the relief the teether brought him and I was especially happy as prior he had been sucking and chewing on his fingers which I were afraid would get sore as he suffers with sensitive and eczema prone skin.

We love our Gummee Glove and this is such an innovative idea that we will be using the other products when he moves up in stages.

Gummee Glove Features

Adjustable Closure

The adjustable hook and loop design means that once the mitten is fitted onto baby’s hand there is no fear of it falling off to the ground whilst you are out and about. A teether that has a perfect fit!

Secure Pocket

There is a pocket at the top of the Gummee Glove which is for the heart shaped detachable teething ring with the popper that holds the teething ring securely in place. This is good once the baby has been introduced to the glove and is comfortable with its use, it can either be used with the glove or separately as baby learns how to hold onto a teether.

Teething Ring

Every Gummee Glove comes with a free, high quality, food grade silicone, BPA & Phthalate free detachable heart shaped teething ring that can be used once baby has outgrown the Gummee Glove and can be separately used with added relief by popping it in the refrigerator for half an hour to provide instant cooling relief on hot and itchy gums.

The Side Teethers

The side teethers are perfectly designed to fit into tiny mouths so that when baby puts hand to mouth the teether is right there where it needs to be. These can also be used as gel applicators by just applying some gel to the side of the teethers. The heart shaped teether can be washed in soapy water or sterilised using any of the usual methods.

Absorbent Cotton

The Gummee Glove is made with 100% cotton which makes it really absorbent and breathable. This is particularly important as it prevents baby from getting rashes as the glove absorbs all the drool while baby stays comfortable and dry!

Machine Washable

Every Gummee Glove comes with a free laundry pouch which makes it easy to wash after baby’s use. Simply pop the glove into the drawstring bag, tightly pull the cord and loosely tie the string, then wash with similar coloured items.

The heart shaped teether can be washed in soapy water or sterilised using any of the usual methods.

Josiah has really been happy with his Gummee Glove and it’s really helped ease the discomfort he had from teething and put my mind at ease with him not getting sore fingers from putting them in his mouth. Thank you Gummee Teething!

*Gifted item but all opinions are my own

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When Three Became Four

Hey everyone! It has been a while… well nearly 2 years to be exact since my last post. What’s the reason behind my radio silence?! LIFE. It got real busy, really quickly and then before you know it my blogs became that unfinished book put back on the shelf; all dusty and forgotten.

But I have been enjoying life and along with continuing my business we have another addition to the family!

So to all my old followers and soon to be new, let me reintroduce my beautiful family.

Myself

Well hello again, I’m Angelina, aged 34 and I’m a Christian, wife, full time Mummy, a daughter, sister, auntie and hopefully a good friend to some. I also have a small decor business which has been running since Dec 2016 called Picture This Decor where I make and sell Personalised Decor, Frames & Gifts.

I try and work this around my children and family life as that is the most important thing to me but equally I love being able to have something that solely belongs to me.

I love clothes shopping, looking at interior accounts, Netflix bingeing and socialising (when I get the chance) but most of all I love being a home body and staying in with my family.

Miquel

And this handsome man here is Miquel, he’s 30 years old and is an awesome dad to our children. Miquel is very creative and is a ‘man of many trades’ as he can play the piano, drums, he’s very good at drawing and our handyman around the house. He also sings, raps and writes songs; so you can already guess there’s never a dull moment when he’s around!

Nia-Mae

And this beautiful little girl is our rainbow baby Nia-Mae aka ‘Nee Nee’. She’s 2 and a half years old but has a mature face and character to match; she has also recently become a ‘Daddy’s Girl’ which secretly breaks my heart! Nee is so loving and kind it amazes me everyday just how much she is growing, changing and learning from the environment around her. She is currently potty training which is going ‘fairly well’ but I know these things take time and she is a child who learns from consistency so will eventually get the hang of it.

Nia-Mae interacts with others well, loves music and dancing, drawing and colouring, building and putting objects in containers and emptying them out. She also loves to dress up in pretty clothes and accessories and be in front of the camera (as you will soon find out)

Her speech is coming along amazingly and we’re so impressed at some of the language she uses which is the correct context that you would expect in a conversation. Nia-Mae is a bright little girl who makes her parents continually proud everyday!

Josiah

Here is our newest addition at nearly 4 months young, Josiah aka ‘JJ’. Josiah was born in October 5th 2018 and his presence into our family has been with such ease, it’s like he has always been around.

Josiah also loves to interact and be around others, he absolutely adores his mummy and this is clearly shown by his ‘special gaze and smiles’ when he sees me. He feeds well with milk and loves watching his sister play, dance and generally entertain him. He will soon be starting his weaning journey along with sleep training (so fun times ahead)!

He currently loves cuddling up next to Mummy as we co-sleep together so I’m really hoping he’ll adopt well to the idea of sharing a room with his sister. I can’t wait to watch them together playing, laughing and enjoying each other’s company but they’ve already been best of friends from birth!

I look forward to continuing sharing this journey of Motherhood, Faith, Mumpreneurship, Home Activities, Product Reviews And Family Fun & Holidays so hang around and enjoy getting to know us all.

Thank you for reading!

The World Of A Mumpreneur 

Hey everyone! So it’s currently pouring down with rain, my daughter is content playing and I’ve decided to take a break from my orders today but only because I need more supplies but while I have that opportunity I thought I’d catch up with blogging…

It has been super hard juggling so many balls in the air including blogging but I’m going to continue doing my best because I find this therapeutic; like writing in a diary only that it’s viewed publically! 

Today I’m going to write my quickly my experiences on how I’ve found it so far being a ‘mumprenuer’ as the popular term is at the moment. 

For those of you that are not aware I started my small business just before the new year called Picture.This Frame (for some reason the link isn’t working) but the web address is 

https://www.etsy.com/shop/picturethisframeshop

I unexpectedly found I had a creative side which was birthed while looking for personalised Christmas presents for my family members on behalf of my daughter. I wanted to get them personalised frames that they could put their photographs in as they don’t live close so don’t get to see her often. 

While late at night an idea popped into my head that I could make them myself although I have no prior skill in art or craft at all! I searched materials and embellishments that I liked and put something together which actually turned out decent. My husband was also impressed and I started seeing what other frames I could create and the idea grew from there! I bravely set up an Instagram account and an Etsy shop and the outcome has astonished me so much from all the positive feedback, praise and encouragement from the publc. 

It has been 3 months since this all began and the journey has been a hard but exciting one so far, thankfully I have a daughter who is in an established routine so I currently work around her sleep times and occasionally when she is content playing by herself but due to all my frames being handmade myself this takes a considerable amount of time and I take pride in my work being a perfectionst that each frame has to be exactly the way the customer wants; resulting in an average time of 1 1/2-2 1/2 hours of uninterrupted time per frame (dependant on the design) but if I am working around Nia-Mae then this is obviously longer. 

I sit here smiling to myself thinking its actually funny that I was adamant that I could never do anything creative or have the will power or drive to run my own business and although this is small beginnings I have already learnt many lessons along the way in what works and doesnt work through the kind words and advice from other business owners and also social media being a powerful and main platform for reaching my clientele. 

I have great respect for all those that have created and grafted their business from scratch because although I enjoy what I do there have already been frustrating times where ive felt to pack it all in! Multi-tasking is difficult to master in this business and I personally I think especially for a mother who has her own business as this does not remove her title or duties and for myself I am also a wife with a husband that needs my attention…

As I work from my dinning room table I often look over towards the direction of my husband and daughter and feel guilty for not spending my evenings with them. I do my best to fulfil my orders at the beginning of the week so to have as much free time for my family as possible but this is still a working practice! But I am a firm believer of quality over quantity so when I do catch up on family time it is throughly enjoyed… 

My dream is one day being able to have this as my full time job having the comfort of working from home, setting my own hours and even choosing to work in my PJ’s with the washing machine as background noise if I want! But I now currently take all the experiences I can in order to nuture my God given gift into providing special and personlised keepsakes and decor for homes and events. I am so excited to what the future holds and pray that I have an abundance of ideas and that my creativity never funs dry. 

I am deeply humbled that people would want to purchase something I have made and place it in thier homes and it is the positive reviews and feedback from customers and supporters that keeps me going through the early morning starts to the late night finishes! 

Lastly but not at all leastly I want to say A BIG THANK YOU to all my customers because by  supporting my small business you make it that much more achieveable in reaching my dreams!!! 

You can follow Picture.This Frame on-

Instagram:- @picture.this__xo

Facebook:- @picture.thisframe2

 


Marriage, Motherhood and Maintenance 

As I amend the drafted date and insert the new one a wave of calm and nostalgia come over me… I’ve really missed blogging, just being able to express my feelings, fears, desires, expectations, ventures all visually via my keypad. 

Happy New Year everyone! It’s been a while since I’ve been here, and all due to a BUSY period. Time has just flown by… with Christmas nearly already being a distant memory! 

So how has your New Year set off so far?? For myself I must say I’m pretty pleased with what I’m accomplishing so far (although there are still areas lacking and in need of amendment) I am trusting and relying on God to assist me with, cos this woman over here often has no clue most days. It’s ONLY by God’s grace that I have come this far. 

So as my title states I’ll break it all down for ya… 

Marriage


So this here is my gorgeous loving, loyal, hard-working and dedicated husband! We’ve been married 3 years and 5 months and it has been a rollercoaster ride. I’m not going to charade and make it out that it’s been a fairy tale and ‘happily ever after’ because it hasn’t. Christ has been that link that has and is continuing to hold us together, when at times either one of us doesn’t ‘feel’ like being a husband or a wife to each other we continue in our efforts of ‘daily dying to ourselves’ and preserve through.

That’s what I’ve learnt along the years that love and marriage definitely isn’t based on feelings but is a choice. Our selfish flesh always looks out for ‘me, myself and I’ while love focuses on the best interests and needs of the ‘other person’! 

Reflecting over last year really allows me to somberly feel convicted over how I can sometimes take my marriage for granted. The passion, energy and excitement that was put into the foundation of friendship, dating and the delighted anticipation of getting married can seem so easily smouldered by routine, bills, work, church and friends. 

Of course all of that is a natural function of life  but how did it transition into a monotonous cycle that could almost be perceived as Groundhog Day. One simple answer… Investment! Growth in any area requires attention, nurture, habit, evaluation, change, support and increase. If this is so for tangible things such as employment, health, wealth and hobbies how much more should be for our spouses??!

“I need to consciously ensure I daily desposit into our account of love in preparation of ‘rainy days’ so there will always be an abundance of savings previously invested”


My husband is a blessing to myself, my daughter and our home!!! My aim and challenge for this year is to study and actively try to be the best help-meet for him; speaking his love language and purposefully investing all that I have into our marriage.

I look forward to many more years of adventures! 


Motherhood

Over these past four months of looking after my daughter it has revealed and stretched me in so many areas that prior to being a mother were not even thought about. Being a mother means all the time and attention that was spent on my needs cant always be achieved at that specific moment. There’s a little human that doesn’t understand the pile of dirty dishes in the sink need to be washed, dinner that needs to be prepared, a washing basket that is starting to look like the Leaning Tower Of Pisa or the fact that you have a schedule to meet and need to shower and be ready on time so your not late to a venue. The transition into motherhood has allowed me to re-evaluate priories that some of those things don’t matter at that exact time BUT also it is up to me to arrange my time accordingly so that these things are not neglected. This has taken me a lot of juggling and sacrifice, to utilise the time my daughter is sleeping often neglecting sleep, that hot cup of tea or the catch up of my favourite programme. Yes I have learnt these things but with everything in life there has to be balance!! I have achieved this by setting routine and structure, children need consistency and conscious habits; structured bed times and the choice to no longer co-sleep have helped all of us to not only get a good nights sleep but to also revel in each of our along time. 

Alone time for a baby you ask… YES!! Nia-Mae is seeing many new things in her environment, developing daily and exploring new exploits accompanied along with constant human interact can often be very tiring. I believe that as mothers and parents in our efforts to ensure development and interaction through communication we can at times over stimulate their precious tiny minds, by studying my daughters cues, signals and behaviours it has allowed me to understand her needs at that precise time and act accordingly to the best of my ability. Do I get it wrong? At times yes especially in the very early stages but cutting myself some slack with daily reminders that all this is new allows me to enjoy the process and uncertainty in my role of motherhood! 

In the further development and achievement of milestones yet to come, I have to accept that I will be clueless in many efforts,at times make many mistakes. In all that which is out of my control and comfort zone I will eternally be grateful and continue to enjoy this beautiful journey named motherhood! 



Maintenance 

Prior to being a wife and a mother, I very much believed in working hard and playing hard. I would invest in the upkeep of having my hair done at the hairdressers, the renewal of my nail extensions and the splurge of shopping sprees at times I often regretted purchasing as soon as I walked out the shop door. This was SINGLE LIFE. 
Entering into marriage I strongly believed the concept of ‘not letting myself go’ just because I am now married. I would try make time for the maintenance routine in the same manner I was accoustomed to while single, only to soon find that many of those things I had the luxury in paying for would soon have to be replaced with DIY upkeep! 

Yes it may take half the day to wash, blow-dry and straighten my hair but the adjusted priorities of shared currency with my newly wed husband soon brought me into check. Thankfully I still hand the means to go to the hairdressers but the difference is where it was an automatic response now took planning and preparation with a before thought of not just how that decision impacted me but also my husband. 

Fast forward a few years to now being a mummy and the whole persona of maintenance and up keep is now a whole different ball game!!! My thought process of making sure I look good at all times has now been replaced for ‘only on a need to basis’. Half a day spent on the upkeep of my hair has quickly been replaced to low maintenance and protective hairstyles, my nails often go weeks without being manicured and painted and my once luxurious lifestyle of shopping sprees are now a distant memory replaced with bills, nappies and food! The time I do get to buy anything is for my daughter and replaced with online browsing and ordering. 

I am still in the learning process that the added benefits of maintenance have to be planned but yet flexible… yes I still believe in the importance of upkeep and ‘not letting myself go’ but thankfully my mindset has matured into not only thinking what’s best for myself but for the family which I care about and love! 
Here are a few of my quick and daily preparation and ‘fix-its’ 

  1. I get ready at least 2 hours ahead of the intended time so that I can allow for any spontaneous events such as feedings, nappy changes or an explosion of tears 
  2. I utilise the opportunity of my daughters nap times to catch up on luxury showers that can take more than 5 minutes. 
  3. I plan and prepare outfits the night before in order to avoid the hustle and bustle that will only ensure our tardiness 
  4. Hair and nail appointments are ONLY on a need to basis and are chosen with the lowest form of maintenance and renewal possible (weaves and shellac nails) 
  5. Makeup is only worn for events where looking like the walking dead is not acceptable. Local trips or errand runs often do not count 
  6. ‘Me time’ is often achieved at the dead of night when everyone is asleep and I have the quietness to reflect and evaluate

And lastly but by far not leastly 

7. I PRIORITSE! Some things need to be done at that precise time, some later and some not at all.

With all that said and done, I am enjoying the growth with everything that I’m enduring and it is allowing growth and stretching in areas I didn’t even think possible. I love the fact that I am changing for the better and hope and pray I continue to do so that is pleasing to God, my husband and my daughter. 

This year I want to be the best version of me! 

Women Empowerment

So over the past couple of weeks I’ve really been inspired to start a few new projects… one of them being blogging and another tapping into my artistry and beginning a hobby/craft/small business (whatever it may agument into) 

Im not gonna lie, this may seem like a minor accomplishment to others but for myself 

I’m really coming out of the boat and treading on foreign water!!!

Now in the past, I have tried to be supportive and encouraging the best way I can but like everyone else have miserably failed when friends have launched projects, dreams and business ventures and with a hint of green in my heart wish that I could be brave enough to begin such accomplishments. This has led me to question…

“Why is it so hard to show genuine support to our family and friends but easy enough for the stranger whom we follow on social media??!”

Please don’t get it twisted as I’m not saying supporting this way is wrong and is definitely needed and commended but I do believe that there’s somthing powerful in knowing a person’s journey, witnessing their struggles, set backs and falls to then see them victorious and purged like gold! Recently I have been making a conscious effort to whole-heartedly support those that I know in events or business projects almost as if it were my own vision or dream; I’m not naive in thinking that every product or event can be attended but a few words of encouragement and affirmation can really go the distance and this is what we should practise in empowering other women. 

 

I really agree with the above statement but also know that while healthy competition is good, a necessity at times it shouldn’t be at the detriment of bringing others down so that we ourselves can succeed. If this is the case then serious assessment over our character should be done. We should practise

“Monitoring our hearts, motives, our insecurities and relationships”

When we honestly do this, only then can we access whether we are genuinely being an asset to our friends and family… or are we being roadblocks??! 

It can not be healthy secretly being hopeful in the downfall of people’s successes especially for those we call our ‘loved ones’ something is disturbingly erroneous! 

Let’s not be these women… let’s be the loudest cheerleaders we can!!! An assistant to the platform of others success! 


Mummy’s Day Out (MDO)

So myself and my princess had a very busy weekend. On Saturday we attended an event called Mummy’s Day Out organised by a lovely woman named Rachel. This event was designed as a mothers social event that allows meeting up with mummies new and experience; allowing the ability in networking, advertising, encouragement, advice or just a general social gathering that allows the breakup of a mothers daily routine. Follow http://instagram.com/mummys_day_out for their future event next held in Jan 2017. Mummies you don’t want to miss out! 

Personally for myself it was refreshing to be amongst other mummies from all different journeys and walks of life as sometimes being a mum on maternity leave can be lonely as times but Rachel’s personality, hospitality and extroverted charisma rounded up the day wonderfully. 

The event was professionally organised where you were greeted by the host herself, shown where to place your buggies and encouraged to sit and talk amongst other mums on arrival. The decor was beautifully set out with a Christmas theme and at the front of the room MDO balloons were visible (as posted in the above picture) which were sponsored by Time2Balloon http://instagram.com/time2balloon 

Entertainment was provided for the older  children with an arts and crafts table which surprisingly allowed them to be entertained for the whole duration of the event. 

The venue was the perfect spot for me (as travelling from Reading with a baby in a pushchair) I needed somewhere that was central and easy access on public transport… A quick plug that https://tfl.gov.uk really should update their tube stations??!  To not have lift access in many of them is outdated and makes it very difficult for buggy and wheelchair users to get around on transportation that is largely used around the city. This drastically needs to be improved!!! But anyway many thanks to the men and women that helped me get up and down the stairs to the platforms around the Bakerloo and Central line; your kindness is remembered! 

The venue was held at www.holidayinn.com/stratford-city who were very helpful, welcoming and accomating to the event and were efficient in their service of serving up our Christmas dinner that tasted very yummy (but could have done with being more of a generous serving for a hungry black woman) 

The first guest speaker was a woman named Shirina Carstens who is the founder of a business called Beauty Within http://instagram.com/b_f_within that tackles inner beauty through creative arts.

 Her talk was so inspirational, being a woman that had many misfortunate events and circumstances happen to her, even to the extent of contracting a bug from the hospital she delivered her daughter in which led to her having to learn to walk and talk again and then almost facing death on top of it! Shirina refused to bow out of life and pursued a business venture creating something beautiful out of the tragedy life had dealt her. Her talk was such an encouragement and a help personally to myself in remembering to 

Dust myself off and get back up when I fall… To always keep trying and striving in moving forward. 

Moving always forward, never backward! Don’t give up on my dreams! 

Another guest speaker by the name of Jackie Gyimah spoke personally about seeing yourself not just as a mother but to remember to follow your dreams and to invest in building something for yourself (whether it be a business or a hobby)

 Jackie touched on a personal account of being a young mother and a divorcee before but raised 2 children in whom both have achieved academic success. I look forward to speaking with Jackie in the future as she continues to be encouraging about going for what you want dispite what you may face in life! 

 She was able to tell me a little bit more about herself through interaction by FB messenger:-

 “I am an aspiring motivational speaker. I am currently in the process of building my brand Real Talk With Jackie. Talking about real issues women face and are dealing with, i do this through sharing my own personal journey and experiences, as a single mother, divorcee, teenage mother the list goes on. You can listen to some of my talks on my personal facebook page Jackie Gyimah, but full length talks on MAB ministry’s prayer group”

You can follow Jackie on www.facebook.com/jackie.gyimah who will be building a brand Real Talk With Jackie in the near future. 

The MDO mummies were in for a special treat with the next speaker and demonstration by Annie Nimz who is a mother of 2 and a freelance MUA with a business named BellezaByAnnieNimz.

 Annie spoke about how her talent and hobby off applying make up on herself and others was soon encouraged by close family members and friends to use the social media platform to advance her gift. Annie motivated many and spoke words of truth and wisdom that 

“Black women need to support each other with business ventures and not just personal ones”

This is what Annie soon learned when she first started her business Instagram page which she almost abandoned after giving birth to her second child but soon initiated once again; successfully running a mobile business and launched a makeup tutorial class in September (with another coming early next year). 

Annie gave an easy to follow demonstration on how to achieve the look for ‘fleeky eyebrows’ talking about how and where to buy the tools and makeup she was using. She also gives one-to-one makeup tutorial classes that I aim to personally try out in the near future. Follow Annie Nimz for enquiries, bookings or simply take a look and support her journey on http://instagram.com/annienimz


The last guest speaker (but by far not the least) was by Styled By Tiwa http://instagram.com/tiwajenyo that gave a quick PowerPoint presentation on how to dress for different body shapes she works with  (pear, apple and hourglass) she had the task of  styling the CEO of MDO who entertained us all with a catwalk of her outfit that complimented her beautifully. 

Now you know there can’t be any event without photographs to document the day and the lovely Esi captured the day wonderfully; she worked hard photographing not just the days activities but ensuring that parents and their children were able to have pictures taken together. The children even got a chance to meet Santa which was photographed professionally and efficiently. I will be posting the photographs taken of myself and Nia-Mae  by Esi Scott Photography once I receive them http://instagram.com/esi.scott

Generous sponsors for the event that blessed MDO raffle winners with their products were:-

and Unique Touch Interiors (Interior design and upcycling business) promoted her business while she was there. http://instagram.com/uniquetouchinteriors

I have yet to try their products and will be posting a blog in the near future once I’ve purchased.

Overall it was a wonderful event and day out! I enjoyed socialising and networking with all the new mommas and I’m definitely looking forward to the next event in Jan 2017. Myself and Nia-Mae have made new friendships that we hope will continue as we grow in our journey of motherhood!