Women Empowerment

So over the past couple of weeks I’ve really been inspired to start a few new projects… one of them being blogging and another tapping into my artistry and beginning a hobby/craft/small business (whatever it may agument into) 

Im not gonna lie, this may seem like a minor accomplishment to others but for myself 

I’m really coming out of the boat and treading on foreign water!!!

Now in the past, I have tried to be supportive and encouraging the best way I can but like everyone else have miserably failed when friends have launched projects, dreams and business ventures and with a hint of green in my heart wish that I could be brave enough to begin such accomplishments. This has led me to question…

“Why is it so hard to show genuine support to our family and friends but easy enough for the stranger whom we follow on social media??!”

Please don’t get it twisted as I’m not saying supporting this way is wrong and is definitely needed and commended but I do believe that there’s somthing powerful in knowing a person’s journey, witnessing their struggles, set backs and falls to then see them victorious and purged like gold! Recently I have been making a conscious effort to whole-heartedly support those that I know in events or business projects almost as if it were my own vision or dream; I’m not naive in thinking that every product or event can be attended but a few words of encouragement and affirmation can really go the distance and this is what we should practise in empowering other women. 

 

I really agree with the above statement but also know that while healthy competition is good, a necessity at times it shouldn’t be at the detriment of bringing others down so that we ourselves can succeed. If this is the case then serious assessment over our character should be done. We should practise

“Monitoring our hearts, motives, our insecurities and relationships”

When we honestly do this, only then can we access whether we are genuinely being an asset to our friends and family… or are we being roadblocks??! 

It can not be healthy secretly being hopeful in the downfall of people’s successes especially for those we call our ‘loved ones’ something is disturbingly erroneous! 

Let’s not be these women… let’s be the loudest cheerleaders we can!!! An assistant to the platform of others success! 


Mummy’s Day Out (MDO)

So myself and my princess had a very busy weekend. On Saturday we attended an event called Mummy’s Day Out organised by a lovely woman named Rachel. This event was designed as a mothers social event that allows meeting up with mummies new and experience; allowing the ability in networking, advertising, encouragement, advice or just a general social gathering that allows the breakup of a mothers daily routine. Follow http://instagram.com/mummys_day_out for their future event next held in Jan 2017. Mummies you don’t want to miss out! 

Personally for myself it was refreshing to be amongst other mummies from all different journeys and walks of life as sometimes being a mum on maternity leave can be lonely as times but Rachel’s personality, hospitality and extroverted charisma rounded up the day wonderfully. 

The event was professionally organised where you were greeted by the host herself, shown where to place your buggies and encouraged to sit and talk amongst other mums on arrival. The decor was beautifully set out with a Christmas theme and at the front of the room MDO balloons were visible (as posted in the above picture) which were sponsored by Time2Balloon http://instagram.com/time2balloon 

Entertainment was provided for the older  children with an arts and crafts table which surprisingly allowed them to be entertained for the whole duration of the event. 

The venue was the perfect spot for me (as travelling from Reading with a baby in a pushchair) I needed somewhere that was central and easy access on public transport… A quick plug that https://tfl.gov.uk really should update their tube stations??!  To not have lift access in many of them is outdated and makes it very difficult for buggy and wheelchair users to get around on transportation that is largely used around the city. This drastically needs to be improved!!! But anyway many thanks to the men and women that helped me get up and down the stairs to the platforms around the Bakerloo and Central line; your kindness is remembered! 

The venue was held at www.holidayinn.com/stratford-city who were very helpful, welcoming and accomating to the event and were efficient in their service of serving up our Christmas dinner that tasted very yummy (but could have done with being more of a generous serving for a hungry black woman) 

The first guest speaker was a woman named Shirina Carstens who is the founder of a business called Beauty Within http://instagram.com/b_f_within that tackles inner beauty through creative arts.

 Her talk was so inspirational, being a woman that had many misfortunate events and circumstances happen to her, even to the extent of contracting a bug from the hospital she delivered her daughter in which led to her having to learn to walk and talk again and then almost facing death on top of it! Shirina refused to bow out of life and pursued a business venture creating something beautiful out of the tragedy life had dealt her. Her talk was such an encouragement and a help personally to myself in remembering to 

Dust myself off and get back up when I fall… To always keep trying and striving in moving forward. 

Moving always forward, never backward! Don’t give up on my dreams! 

Another guest speaker by the name of Jackie Gyimah spoke personally about seeing yourself not just as a mother but to remember to follow your dreams and to invest in building something for yourself (whether it be a business or a hobby)

 Jackie touched on a personal account of being a young mother and a divorcee before but raised 2 children in whom both have achieved academic success. I look forward to speaking with Jackie in the future as she continues to be encouraging about going for what you want dispite what you may face in life! 

 She was able to tell me a little bit more about herself through interaction by FB messenger:-

 “I am an aspiring motivational speaker. I am currently in the process of building my brand Real Talk With Jackie. Talking about real issues women face and are dealing with, i do this through sharing my own personal journey and experiences, as a single mother, divorcee, teenage mother the list goes on. You can listen to some of my talks on my personal facebook page Jackie Gyimah, but full length talks on MAB ministry’s prayer group”

You can follow Jackie on www.facebook.com/jackie.gyimah who will be building a brand Real Talk With Jackie in the near future. 

The MDO mummies were in for a special treat with the next speaker and demonstration by Annie Nimz who is a mother of 2 and a freelance MUA with a business named BellezaByAnnieNimz.

 Annie spoke about how her talent and hobby off applying make up on herself and others was soon encouraged by close family members and friends to use the social media platform to advance her gift. Annie motivated many and spoke words of truth and wisdom that 

“Black women need to support each other with business ventures and not just personal ones”

This is what Annie soon learned when she first started her business Instagram page which she almost abandoned after giving birth to her second child but soon initiated once again; successfully running a mobile business and launched a makeup tutorial class in September (with another coming early next year). 

Annie gave an easy to follow demonstration on how to achieve the look for ‘fleeky eyebrows’ talking about how and where to buy the tools and makeup she was using. She also gives one-to-one makeup tutorial classes that I aim to personally try out in the near future. Follow Annie Nimz for enquiries, bookings or simply take a look and support her journey on http://instagram.com/annienimz


The last guest speaker (but by far not the least) was by Styled By Tiwa http://instagram.com/tiwajenyo that gave a quick PowerPoint presentation on how to dress for different body shapes she works with  (pear, apple and hourglass) she had the task of  styling the CEO of MDO who entertained us all with a catwalk of her outfit that complimented her beautifully. 

Now you know there can’t be any event without photographs to document the day and the lovely Esi captured the day wonderfully; she worked hard photographing not just the days activities but ensuring that parents and their children were able to have pictures taken together. The children even got a chance to meet Santa which was photographed professionally and efficiently. I will be posting the photographs taken of myself and Nia-Mae  by Esi Scott Photography once I receive them http://instagram.com/esi.scott

Generous sponsors for the event that blessed MDO raffle winners with their products were:-

and Unique Touch Interiors (Interior design and upcycling business) promoted her business while she was there. http://instagram.com/uniquetouchinteriors

I have yet to try their products and will be posting a blog in the near future once I’ve purchased.

Overall it was a wonderful event and day out! I enjoyed socialising and networking with all the new mommas and I’m definitely looking forward to the next event in Jan 2017. Myself and Nia-Mae have made new friendships that we hope will continue as we grow in our journey of motherhood! 

Grace Has Found Me 

 

It’s after 5am while I’m writing this and I’m having sleepless nights as seems to be the usual of lately. To my right of me my husband sleeps heavily with the occasional snore and the push and shove from myself and a few feet away from me in her world of opulence is the addition to my world, my daughter.

In my previous post I wrote about the battle of my recurring pregnancy losses but now 3 months on all that I am and all that I do is for my beautiful princess, ‘Nia-Mae Grace’ (Grace meaning undeserved favour)

The journey I experienced seemed fitting with her name as a constant reminder of the huge responsibility and role that God has entrusted me with… the raising of his daughter, the impression of the next generation, the moulding of a personality and strong force.

With every journey there are struggles and to say the least some days are tougher than others. With the sacrificial broken sleep, power showers and cold cups of tea, just to name a few but the outweighing of smiles and giggles that brighten my day, the intimacy of a bond only a mother and child can feel through breastfeeding and the constant bright-eyed babbles as we have our daily conversations can’t compare. I remain ambitious in my guise in motherhood and look forward to all that God has in our future my Princess…

I am blessed beyond measure and am truly indebted that Grace Has Finally Found Me.